I believe in them. In parenting, I think they are essential. If you fail to uphold a responsibilty or make a bad choice, you must face the consequences.
When meeting with the big kid's teacher about what to expect in 1st grade, one point that was clearly driven was they would be expected to become more independent....they would be responsible for writing down homework assignments in their homework folder and they would be responsible for loading that folder into their backpack along with their lunch box and snack bag. I'll be honest, my alarms were going off because I knew this was going to be a challenge for my duo.
And, it has been. There have been many days that one has forgotten their lunchbox, parts of their uniform, and now one of them has forgotten their homework folder twice. The first time I gave a warning and made a copy so they would be able to complete the assignment.
The second time happened today and I feel we must go big here to make a statement....If you forget your homework folder, you will get a zero and sit down during recess to complete the work (this is the class rule, not mine).
The fact is, we are trying to raise these children with the plan that they will leave our home with the skills and morals to do good in the world and in their spiritual life. At the same time, I have a tendency to want to keep the peace and keep everyone happy, because it's easier that way isn't it?
Easier, in the short term but not in the master plan.
After talking it over with my husband, we feel like this is the only way to drive home the importance of upholding responsibilities. But it's hard.
This child gets very upset when "punished" and doesn't want to disappoint. Through tears and worries for what the teacher will say, I had to stand my ground.
I couldn't help but think this issue is probably going to seem very insignificant compared to other challenges we are likely to face in these growing up years, but here's hoping they will be teenagers who can keep up with their homework!