B came home from school yesterday at noon with a fever and a headache. Our school's rule is the child must be fever free for 24 hours before going back to school. So, even though he has had no fever since coming home, he was at home today. Because he seemed to feel fine and he was fever- free, i took him along to run a few errands.
At one stop, he politely held the door for a young (mid 40'sish) lady. She asked him a question and he responded, "Yes, ma'am." She looked at me and said, "You know it's really old-fashioned and a little bit insulting to teach your son to say ma'am and sir. It makes the child think he is not equal to adults."
Is this the current thinking? I know saying ma'am/ sir is not held to the standard that it once was, but insulting to the child?
So, I'm curious, do you say ma'am/sir? Are you teaching your children to? Do you think it's insulting to the child? Is this some archaic tradition?
Really, I want to know.